tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36513923.post7982905206445955537..comments2023-09-01T03:37:31.410-06:00Comments on marta writes: love the overlappingmartahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15027406340527614561noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36513923.post-41426707817752474532012-03-02T12:03:25.240-07:002012-03-02T12:03:25.240-07:00I loved this post. I remember talking to my pedia...I loved this post. I remember talking to my pediatrician about how to help my first adjust for the arrival of my second, and I've used his tips ever since. The biggest thing for me is to involve the older child as much as possible. Using phrases like "our baby" or even "his baby" to help Benji feel some ownership goes a long way in helping them to feel included instead of displaced. I quickly had to let go of expectations about the perfect way to hold a baby, soothe a baby, etc., because the older siblings will have their own way of doing those things, and really no one is worse for the wear at the end of it. <br /><br />And I agree- milk it while you can before the change. I remember the week before #2 arrived having moments with my first and crying that it would be the last time we did x,y,z just the two of us. As for preparing myself/family for the baby, I love to fill my freezer with meals, clean like the dickens, and then lower my expectations because things won't be the same again, and that's perfectly wonderful.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04906304401809606014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36513923.post-44761659965684408262012-03-02T08:56:03.288-07:002012-03-02T08:56:03.288-07:00first, love my logo. :) and your quilt analogy ga...first, love my logo. :) and your quilt analogy gave me a lot of strength. it's hard to balance everything but to think about it all being your fabric just shifted my perspective in a beautiful way .. thank you so so much.jularun7https://www.blogger.com/profile/09419286113944300300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36513923.post-91796368240392742092012-03-01T16:19:02.149-07:002012-03-01T16:19:02.149-07:00So excited for you! Can I just say, I dreamed I me...So excited for you! Can I just say, I dreamed I met your trio. And I totally nerded out talking really fast about how I've been ready your blog for years. :) you were lovely as I'm sure you are in real life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36513923.post-77414830927628535452012-03-01T13:36:35.023-07:002012-03-01T13:36:35.023-07:00Marta: I really enjoy reading your posts. Helps u...Marta: I really enjoy reading your posts. Helps us keep up on our dear friends in Utah. We are so excited for the three of you and your upcoming new addition. We appreciated the friendship that we share and hope to be able to see all of you soon.quilter5706https://www.blogger.com/profile/06668671517309569655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36513923.post-36986450687678178612012-03-01T11:24:19.643-07:002012-03-01T11:24:19.643-07:00Cute post, helped me re-appreciate my humble littl...Cute post, helped me re-appreciate my humble little life with Chad and Joshy :) Thanks Mart, you are a doll.Brookenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36513923.post-85809134320344579852012-03-01T10:48:40.050-07:002012-03-01T10:48:40.050-07:00Well this just made me smile real big. In fact, my...Well this just made me smile real big. In fact, my little smile got bigger and bigger as I read. I feel like I'm in the calm before the storm right now; our baby is coming this month (!) and perhaps sooner than I had planned. I find myself savoring every shower, every morning to sleep in, every half hour where I have nothing I really HAVE to do. <br /><br />I'll think of you as I (try to) give myself a pedicure and pack the hospital bag and make any last minute purchases. Life moves so quickly! But that's what makes it so exciting.<br /><br />Thanks for this wonderful post. Have a wonderful day, no matter how blustery it is out the window.Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02955103033437768868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36513923.post-83793178189915564462012-03-01T10:21:03.159-07:002012-03-01T10:21:03.159-07:00I had my then 3.5 year son pretty much involved fr...I had my then 3.5 year son pretty much involved from the start: he came to dr. appointments with me to hear the heart beat and "see" the baby on the monitor. When he was asked what he wanted, he answered a sister and was right (sibling intuition?) He helped us paint the new room and picked a gift to bring to the hospital when she arrived. We discussed what he would be abble to do to help as a big brother. I found that he was patient when she cried or needed to take a nap but arranged to have his dad or I do things with him alone so he didn't feel completely ignored. I was lucky because he loved her from the start and still loves to cuddle with her now that he is 6.5 year old. I am very happy for you 3 and I know that B with be a great big brother!Cathynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36513923.post-13816659092227922512012-03-01T10:05:34.443-07:002012-03-01T10:05:34.443-07:00I too feel like I am constantly quilting, haha! G...I too feel like I am constantly quilting, haha! Great analogy Mart! And yes, we just watched the Oprah bit the other night. How great was Fight Club Book Club?!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36513923.post-22765989397797572132012-03-01T08:59:09.906-07:002012-03-01T08:59:09.906-07:00you never cease to amaze me. the thing i love abou...you never cease to amaze me. the thing i love about your blog, it's clear where your priorities are. it's clear how much you love and cherish your family. i hope someday to be as organized and able to cleanly overlap as you!{amy k.}https://www.blogger.com/profile/12401273329357273585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36513923.post-65799313653581885902012-03-01T08:06:42.517-07:002012-03-01T08:06:42.517-07:00You are amazing Marta. I love your quilt metaphor ...You are amazing Marta. I love your quilt metaphor and feel very much the same as you as far as balance and pattern in my life right now. I am so darn excited to meet your new little one! It will most definitely rock your world, but in the greatest way imaginable. Benj will be such a caring and sweet big brother. We read Little Guy a bunch of books on being a big brother before Tiny came. I think that helped quite a bit. We also let him help us get the nursery ready and fold the itty bitty baby clothes. To be quite honest, you can't fully prepare the older siblings for the huge change that will come into their world, but you can at least try to get them used to baby things being around the house. :) Best of luck. Can't wait to see your growing baby bump next week!Hilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05116287647096251147noreply@blogger.com